Why are you so afraid to fail? Because of what others will think? Let me share a little secret with you here: They are also very-very afraid to fail, because of what you might think of them. Such a vicious circle.
And one more thing: we all like to think about ourselves most of the time. Period. We are our most interesting topic.
Now, how much time do you spend on thinking about yourself, your plans, your failures, weaknesses, your own inner dialogue? Of course there is some fleeting seconds when you actually think about somebody else. How long? For an embarrassingly short time. I am sure you had this happened to you already: your friend is sharing a his/her success, failure, or any new/old experience with you and you, what will you say? “You know, I had this ….(put in experience) also, and I… (put in what happened to you or how you handled it)”. And you are back to me, me, me again. Fact of life.
So, next time you fear what your friend, enemy, neighbor, partner, or the stranger on the street will think of you, just count to five. Do you still believe that they are concentrating on your failure and judge you? Yes? Then count to 38 now. And I can guarantee you that they are already somewhere else, planning dinner, remembering their to-do lists or beating themselves up. Or trying to figure out what they have done to you as you are silent for exactly 43 seconds now. Perplexed expression on their face? You have evidence now.
Anything you want. Just take action. Today.